KINDNESS sculpture

Kindness Matters

This blog post was written by Dr. Polly A. Peterson, PhD, MSW, Head of School at
Chase Collegiate School in Waterbury, CT. The Kingsbury Center is sharing Dr. Peterson’s thoughts as our Center has long believed that Kindness is Transformational!

Kindness matters in life. From time to time, parents will ask me, “Does your school teach the value of kindness?” It is a good question. Who is responsible for making sure that kindness is taught? Because kindness matters!

KINDNESS sculpture

Kingsbury community’s Kindness sculpture.

Research by Dr. Sara Konrath at the University of Michigan suggests that in the past 30 years, self-reported concern for others — a kindness barometer if you will — has been steadily declining. Konrath’s study shows that right now, compassion and empathy are at their lowest point in more than 30 years. Continue reading

How to Raise a Compassionate Child

ellenEvery great culture values kindness and acts of compassion. Loving your neighbor, being kind, cherishing each individual for her unique gifts are all behaviors and attitudes most parents want to see in their children. Sometimes it’s easier to donate some canned foods or even go on a volunteer trip to another country than it is to be kind to the people right next to us.

How can we as parents help our children be compassionate? Here are six steps that parents can take. Continue reading

From Boys to Men

Dr. JBy Dr. Charlie Johnson

I have worked with pre-adolescent and adolescent males, primarily African-American, but other racial and ethnic groups as well, for more than 25 years. In my 15 years at The Kingsbury Center, I have specialized in working with those who have some sort of learning disability, be it a struggle to read, despite average intelligence; or slow processing, which inhibits the ability to work in “real time”; or internal distractions, like attention or anxiety, which make it challenging to be an effective learner, both in terms of academics and in appropriate social and emotional functioning. My overarching goal is to help these boys successfully transition to manhood. What I have observed in emerging young men over the years leads me to share my personal perspective on a phenomenon that causes me great concern: too many young men are not being successfully “launched.” Continue reading

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When a Grandparent Is Ill: 8 Little Steps to Make it Easier on the Kids (and You)

ellenBy Ellen Iscoe, Ph.D.

You may realize it gradually or find out through a dreaded call in the middle of the night. Your mother or father is ill, no longer the healthy family member you and your children are accustomed to. With all the emotions you may experience and details you might need to attend to, you also have to consider how to help your child cope with the fact that Grandpa or Grandma is sick. Here are some things to keep in mind to help your child get accustomed to this unwelcome bit of news. Continue reading

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Adventures of the “Good Enough” Parent

Ann Rowe bio picThe vaccination/anti-vaccination debate highlights the challenge parents today face in determining what is best for their children. Parents on both sides of the vaccination debate hold strong feelings because they are trying their best to provide a good life for their children. Through history, every generation has faced a parenting challenge whether it was providing food for the table, immigrating to a new country, or finding a way to pay for college. Continue reading

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How DNA Influences Your Child On Valentine’s Day

Amidst the rush to find socks and complete homework and mediate arguments, you might pause as Valentine’s Day approaches to wonder: “Will this child I love ever have a special someone in his or her life?” It may seem distant from the morning’s discussion of why ketchup is or is not a vegetable, but in your mutual future you know it is coming: crushes, romance begun and ended via text, and that sweet smile you love, directed at someone else. But how does that first connection even occur, and why does it come so easily for some, but not for others? Continue reading